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"Any idea when you're chatting with the band?" an inquiry reads. "I wanted to ask if I can join as their extra sister."

However, there remains a key snag: The sender also desires to be the Haims' additional sibling. What's more, we are not alone. A host of famous admirers have publicly petitioned for the position.

The evidence suggests an irresistible appeal is going on. Sisters Este, Danielle and Alana started their career playing gigs at local delicatessens with their parents. Now they're multiple Grammy Award nominees.

In the tradition of the greatest ensembles, they're a close unit. Their videos often show them walking in unison down the avenues of Los Angeles. On stage, they jam with such pure happiness you can't help but think, "I want to be part of that, too."

"How often on tour that audience members approached us and said, 'Watching you live, I bought a guitar'," remarks Alana, the most junior of the trio. "It is the biggest honour. That is recognition in itself. We have succeeded if we can encourage young girls to start a band."

"Therefore anyone is invited to be the honorary Haim sister."

Grammy Recognition

The trio are speaking from their homes, where they're recovering after an major tour in for their new album, I Quit.

They're right now celebrating the news it's been shortlisted for a top rock honor at the Grammy Awards – with Haim the first all-female band ever in contention for the trophy.

"I tune into the lists every year, so it sort of feels like The Truman Show when your name is announced," says Alana. "I immediately called my sisters to say, 'Did I hear this correctly or am I dreaming'?"

The importance of the accolade resonates with the sisters.

"We deliberately set out to make a rock album this time, so it's a significant milestone," continues Alana. "Yet we're just thankful for the female artists that inspired us."

Emotional Upheaval and Laughter

The album emerged from a phase of emotional upheaval. All three sisters found themselves single, and the music captures that strange in-between place where you're relieved to be free, but not entirely ready to let go.

The themes follow endings and goodbyes. The sisters want love, but not the relationships they've got. You can hear them figuring out in the moment who they are becoming.

"I adore description, yes," says Danielle. "I Quit is essentially a personal statement. You have to consciously practice blocking the noise and saying, 'I couldn't care less what people think'."

Evolution of Style

That developed confidence required a different sonic direction – more raw and powerful than anything the band had done before.

For Danielle, who helped produce the album, that was founded on the drums.

"Drums are such a detailed thing, and I care so much about it," she says.

"'Journey of the drum sound' will be the title of our biography," quips Alana. "I've said it, our albums cannot begin until we find the ideal drum sound."

Experiences and Collective Camaraderie

The trio's openness inspired the album's marketing, where the sisters disclosed some of their dating tales.

One man left Este over a health consideration. Alana shared a story of flying to spend New Year's Eve with someone, only to receive a high five at midnight.

"During these heartbreaks, you just feel like there's no light," says Alana. "So to be able to find humor in those stories and have them tell you even crazier stories, it's therapeutic."

An Assured Future

You can clearly sense a evolution in the band. Now, Haim are more certain of their position in the rock pantheon.

They're top-billed acts, with chart-topping albums and an international following.

But the band will always be their primary focus.

"My sisters and I have been making music since I was four," says Alana. "There is nothing else that we were meant to do. And I'm really thankful we've gotten here and we're still making music."